StayAtHomeMom

Stay-At-Home Mom Flatline

I became a stay-at-home mom at the age of 24, after my second son was born back in 2010. My boyfriend has been blessed to be able to provide for our family, while I can stay at home with the children. At the beginning stages of stay-at-home living, we were in a small 2 bedroom apartment. I’d drop off my boyfriend to BART (Bay Area Rapid Transit), and my older son to daycare. I’d stay home and cater to all household needs, as well as my newborn baby boy. Eat, sleep, pump, prep meals on repeat. That was my routine.

3 months passed, and we moved into a 5 bedroom home that was provided by my parents paying a small portion of rent helping them out with their mortgage. It was definitely a steal here in the Bay Area -especially being extremely close to the Dumbarton Bridge, which connects the East Bay to the Peninsula including cities such as Redwood City, Palo Alto, and Half Moon Bay just to name a few…

After the move, my older son entered Kindergarten, and my boyfriend was hired at a social media marketing company that helped advertisers manage their pages on Facebook. The company was at their early start-up phase, and was conveniently located across the bridge in Palo Alto. I stayed home, continued to care for my boys and in a larger home. Cleaning was exceedingly difficult, more room = more mess.

 

My sons grew older, birthdays and career milestones were celebrated, while I just stayed a flat momentum of personal growth. Watching my children grow, my boyfriends career grow, and square-footage of our home grow.

 

We’ve then moved out of my parents property, my son entered 1st grade at a new school, new job opportunities for daddy. We are now at a new routine change. My youngest is now in Pre-K, the other in entering 3rd and the boyfriend works remotely from home. The time off opportunity starts now. I’ve failed in increase the past four years. Any mother can understand that we are all opportunist. At times we have absolute no time for even sitting. A stay-at-home mom’s life is all about the house and your children. At times I literally stand while I eat, and I purposely wear gym wear majority of the time, because I feel like I’m actually working out while cleaning, running errands, and always always always doing things for others around the house, and for the house.

As I mentioned in my Journey To 30, 28 wasn’t so great. It was the actual time it really hit me. I’m approaching my 30s, and I want something to show for. …For myself. No one else. I want to challenge myself, try something new, something different, an outlet for me to express myself, personally and creatively. A possible way to provide for my family,  which does not eat away time from my family, that is Number ONE.  Being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t always get any credibility unless someone truly knows what its like. I’m not asking for a high-five, or gold sticker. I just want time for myself for personal growth.

Socially, financially, and emotionally, it’s hard to find my village of moms, and the support. So I always went to the internet. Mommy Blogs, Facebook groups, online forums, MeetUps and YouTube. I’ve found my community there. It was “live,” it’s real, it’s relatable. I gravitate towards mothers/women who share the same lifestyle as me, and have similar interests. There are so many different types of people out there, personalities, and you won’t always mesh well with all of them. And thats ok. There will be times searching for that outlet will remain static…But I pushed myself to keep searching, and improving myself in the mean time.

Bottom line, I’m done being at a flatline. I refuse to continue to fail to increase; to stop remaining static as a stay-at-home mom. Here goes to my new creative challenge and on going personal project.

Being myself and improving myself.

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Run The Lake

Every morning I’ve programmed myself to run the lake near my house. I live literally 5minutes away from the fantastic central park right in the heart of Fremont. Like I’ve mentioned before, I live right at the edge of the Silicon Valley, a suburb residential area, within commuting distance to major cities here in the Bay Area, both San Jose & San Francisco -which I love, love love!!! So being right in the center of many cities makes living in Fremont so great!

Each morning, after dropping my older son to school, I head straight towards central park. Lake Elizabeth, located in Fremont, California, is a man made 83-acre lake. When at average capacity, water rises to a depth of about seven feet, and is exactly 2 miles all around. With many fields, and play structures around the park, with neighboring city buildings like the police department, animal shelter, and also main library. I seriously fall in love with Fremont every morning as I run the lake.

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Tristan is his jogging stroller, enjoying the lake view.

Jeep Overland Limited Jogging Stroller with Front Fixed Wheel

My jogging stroller is probably seeing its finest days right now. I purchased it, just about 3 years ago on Craigslist from a couple who was relocating their family to Brazil. They sold me to be brand new for only $75 (Original: $185) . After using it a couple times on trails, while Tristan was only a year old, I gave up my healthly lifestyle by getting lazy. (Boo.) Now, older, wiser, and with a 4 year old 33lb pre-schooler, I am making up for the lost time!! Pushing the jogging stroller with Tristan is do difficult to do! No lies! I love the wonderful capability of having it hold my stuff, and all the features including:

  • Essential jogging features: front fixed wheel, air filled tires, safety tether, reflectors, super grip and adjustable handle
  • iBaby sound system plays music for both parent and baby
  • Features include: speed and distance odometer, hand brake, large storage basket, parent tray with 2 cup holders and compartment music player or other essential items
  • Multi-position reclining seat with 5-point safety harness accommodates child to 45 lbs
  • Stroller stands upright when folded and you can roll the stroller folded

I cannot express how happy I’ve been lately with my new lifestyle. Everything in my life all has a balance, from the kids school schedule, to me in the kitchen, and eating right, all thanks to running into my trainer at our local Safeway. Bye bye sugary boba drinks and milk teas! I don’t need you!!!

Happy Training! Getting fit, and being happy while doing it!!

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