5 Ways To Feel Younger

Let’s face it, growing up is hard. Finding the perfect career, finding the love of your life, growing a family, raising children, buying a house, saving for vacations, the list goes on. Life really wears us down. I mean, I work part time, but also handle many stay-at-home mom duties, the rest of the day. My children’s lives take over my own personal goals, which to this day, I still have trouble balancing. As we’re getting older, and so as our offspring, life passes by. Here are a few ways to feel and look much younger, fresher and more lively so life doesn’t break us down early on in life.

I love my age. Old enough to know better, young enough to not care. Experienced enough to do it right.

To through it out there, I’m 31. I hit my thirties just last year, and have been a parent for 10 years. I laugh when young twenty somethings tell me their tired. Because, when I was 24, already had a 3 year old, and newborn. I don’t want anyone reading this feeling like they are holding a special card saying their life is unique and that’s the reason why you feel so so tired. Well, truth is, we all have 24 hours in a day, and it’s up to you to run the day, or the day runs you.

  1. Cook More.
    Cooking your own food, in your own kitchen, not only gives you life skills, but also helps budget money, and saves time from going out and buying unhealthy food at you’re not preparing.
  2. Watch What You Eat
    Food is fuel. Eat right feel amazing!

  3. Sleep Enough
    Beyonce get’s 24 hours in a day too, and she has newborn twins and a 5 year old. Somewhere in her day she still manages to be a great wife, and mother, daughter, sister, and entertainer. Trust me, she’s tired too. We all are. Whatever your work schedule or lifestyle is, 7-9hours is definietly enough to get those ZzZz’s.
  4. Exercising Regularly
    In two weeks, you’ll feel it.
    In four weeks, you’ll see it.
    In eight weeks, you’ll hear it.

    Fall in love with taking care of your body. Period.

  5. Maintain A Positive Attitude
    You are what you think you are when it comes to aging. Seniors who think of age as a means to wisdom and overall satisfaction are more than 40% likely to recover from a disability than those who see aging as equal with helplessness or uselessness.

Feeling younger, and loving your age isn’t rocket science. It’s all common traits we all know, but its all about the attitude and how much you really want to feel great and feel alive. Money isn’t a factor. And don’t let that run you. If you can’t afford to take that SoulCycle class, or new trendy gym downtown, take matters into your own hands and work-out at home. Waking up, get up, and tackle these 5 things. Feel good and feel great!

Throwback Thursday: Kids Chore Chart

2 years ago, at the early start of my blogging career, I had made the first attempt of a chore chart for my boys. Still young, beginning to read, and also still trying to understand responsibilities within the home… I thought it was was great way for him to show mommy and daddy that he can help around the house.

At the time my children were 7 and 4, it was a bit pre-mature for me to create a chore chart that wasn’t so “kid-friendly,” for them to use. Mason jar, and post clip. I might as well have painted “Job for hire,” on the wooden slab!!

In honor of Throwback Thursday, here’s the actual blog post.

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Today, my boys are now 10 & 6. Both capable of reading. My older son has grown up already understanding house chores, and what his responsibilities are in the household. Having him is also a great example for his little brother to understand the concept of working hard around the house, and having to do it without mommy or daddy telling you to.

Earlier in the month, I had found a wall display board at my local Goodwill for $5. In perfect condition, I purchased it, and new I needed a display board to communicate the kids chores.

Here, I’d like to share my new and improved — or updated chore chart!!!

As the kids get older, it’s best that their chores get harder, as they can gain more responsibility.

For my older son, his chores are more difficult than his little brothers.

Here’s a few examples I have posted for my 10 year old.
Ages 8-10 would be capable of doing this as well

  • Make Bed Every Morning
  • Unload Dryer
  • Fold Clothes
  • Vacuum Main Living Areas
  • Wash Car
  • Put Away Dishes 
  • Make Lunch & Simple Meals
  • Prepare Small Snacks
  • Pull Weeds
  • Water Outdoor Plants
  • Feed/Clean Pets

As for my 6 year old, his chores consist of:

  • Wipe Down Bathroom Counters
  • Keep Living Room Clean/Organized
  • Sort Recycling
  • Put Away Dirty Clothes
  • Match Socks
  • Dust
  • Put Away Toys
  • Wipe Spills
  • Vacuum Small Corners
  • Water Indoor Plants

Nothing fancy riiight? It’s straight to the point. Look, review, take action. For my little one, I do have to read it to him, but the chart is definietly something for the boys to refer to.

As my oldest son turned 10 this month, it was just a reminder that I’ve been at parent for 10 YEARS!!! Yes girl, yes! Out of the 31 years I’ve been on earth, 10 years I’ve been a parent! So, hopefully that would give me more credibility on my blog as a dependable resource for motherhood. Eh?! I hope so.

This time around with my updated chore chart, I’ve left it a little similar like the first one, but this time, with a marketing tactic with my neon colored messaged. My oldest son loves it.

(It’s a great reminder for him, that along with chores, comes allowance at the end of the week.)

#ParentingPerk #ChoreBenefits

What are your chore chart solutions? Anything similar to my message board? Comment below, and share with me your chores for each age group! I’d love to see what jobs you give your children!!

Parenting Feels

I’m one of those young moms. I had my first son when I was 21, and my second son at 24. If you haven’t done the math yet, I’m now 30 years old. Today, my 6 year old completed Kindergarten, and my oldest son is moving on to the fifth grade. The end of school year has finally arrived, and I’m now stuck with a  going-to-be 1st grader and 5th grader for 2.5 months.

Earlier today, my eldest son and I were walking to get drinks at a local boba cafe. While waiting for our drinks, my son sees two of his martial art buddies come in, and he gives me the eye signal to leave him. I receive the message and take my drink and sit outside. As I’m sitting outside I watch through the glass to see him mingle with his friends. At this time, I have so many feelings rushing through me, the disappointment of him dismissing me, for his friends, excitement in watching my son grow and mingle with his friends, and proud, that I was able to read his discreet signs of communicating with me.

I clearly remember when I was my sons age (9-10years old), being in the 4th and 5th grade and wanting social time with my friends. It’s that age of having your own social life, being dropped off to birthday parties for a few hours, and also sleepovers. Times, when I wanted to communicate with my mom about wanting her to step-aside from “my” fun always came out the wrong way.

I did such a poor job at communicating to my mother how I wanted to hang with friends. At times I would be clear and direct, but other times, obviously to avoid embarrassment, I’d bark out in an ugly tone to my mother on wanting to hang out with friends.

For that I am sorry to my mom. I was young. Naive. And spoiled.

Now, as an adult, and as a mother of a young child entering the chapter of having friends outside of his parents and younger sibling, it’s time for me to let my son break free just a little bit. Gain that self-confidence, and have him express who he is to others his age.

Gawd, it’s such milestone….I call this Parenting Feels. A rush of mixed emotions seeing your offspring grow into the people who they are coming to be.

Are you experiencing the parenting feels around this age? Doesn’t it feel weird? Exciting? Scary?

Comment below, I’d love to read your Parenting Truths!!

 

Riviera Palm Springs

Last weekend, I shared one of the hotels I stayed at during a Mom Springs getaway in Palm Springs. Ace Hotel, was the UrbanOutfitters BOHO desert dreamland for travel goers. In this post, I want to share the second hotel I stayed at in Palm Springs. Summer vacation is right at our finger tips, so get ready to get inspired to book your next trip to the Riviera Palm Springs.

Riviera Palm Springs

1600 N Indian Canyon Dr, Palm Springs, CA 92262

The Riviera Palm Springs gives off that chic glam Hollywood style vibe. From polished finishes, leather sofas in the hallways, to plenty of Vegas red, transparent details on the ceiling. This hotel screams a Modern Palm Springs at its finest.

At the pool area grab a lounge chair, first come first serve, unless you reserve a cabana. Enjoy poolside, ice cream, cocktails, and a good summer read lounging by the pool. Hotel staff is ready at your service. Ice cream on me!!!

All throughout the hotel, the ornate mod details from lit up walls glowing with warm hues, to the carpet patterns, all scream, “We love patterns, colors, and fun!” The Riviera, won’t ever let you forget how well they decorate around their site. Hot colors, against white is a continuous theme.

Overall, the Riviera Palm Springs is a great resort! Dog friendly. DJs. Beautiful decor. Oh! And fire pits! Comfy cabanas,  spacious rooms, and plenty of free space to relax privately in the common areas. They havean incredibly accommodating staff, that make you feel welcomed. Grab a double Pina Colada at the poolside bar and float to your hearts content.

So have I convinced you yet to book your next stay at the Riviera?! If not, overall, Palm Springs?!?!?!  If you haven’t just yet planned your summer, Palm Springs may be a city to check out this summer!!

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Life Lessons with Little League

Spring is basically here, and our children have moved from winter sports to spring sports. What usually is within the months of end of February to early June, these sports usually consist of soccer, basketball, and the ever post popular spring time sport, baseball.

I’ve been in the little league world for 4 years with my oldest son. 1 year, I was even brave enough to have both boys enrolled in little league at once! What is probably typical for some families with multiple children in little league, it was definitely a shuffle for us as a family to oblige to the boys baseball schedules.

For new parents introducing their child’s first sport, I highly, highly recommend little league for your child. As your child starts at the age of 5 (sometimes even 3-4!) tee-ball is introduced, with the fundamentals of baseball. The basics. There are great life lessons learned through tee-ball as well! Whether or not your son sticks with sports all the through childhood, even just a few years can teach him a lot.

  • Paying Attention
  • Practice/Persistence
  • Showing Up
  • Luck
  • Successful = Having Copycats
  • Just Do IT!
  • Scorekeeping?
  • Rainy Days

Last year, we had moved to a new city, which meant my oldest son started at a new little league. We’ve moved around from different little leagues before, but our previous league was by far our favorite. (Shout out to Fremont American Little League!!!)

If you’re excited out this little league season, having it be your child’s first time, here’s what your little slugger will gain.

  1. Paying Attention
    During tee-ball, the kids are basically playing in the dirt, or catching butterflies in the outfield. It happens more often then not. T-ball practice and games isn’t a place to play in the dirt or catch butterflies.. It’s inevitable that the hardest hit balls will find the kids who aren’t paying attention. They’ll either miss their chance to catch a ball, or they’ll get drilled. If you don’t pay attention in life, you’ll miss some great opportunities.
  2. Practice/Persistence
    Most kids aren’t natural talents when it comes to t-ball. Some can swing and miss 10 or more times before they hit the ball. And catching isn’t exactly easy either. But when they eventually hit one, it’s awesome. The look of pride and joy on their faces is priceless. That’s when they realize that if they stick to something and work at it, they can accomplish their goal. Definitely a valuable life lesson.
  3. Showing Up
    Even though my boys love t-ball, there have been a few times when one of them didn’t want to go to his game, or parents made prior engagements on weekend game days (I am guilty to this.) But once you bring your son to his game, he’ll most likely have a great time and is glad he went. This is true in many aspects of life. Whether it’s school, work or just going to the gym to work out. Getting yourself to show up is often the most difficult part.
  4. Luck
    When your son hits that ball at first swing, and runs his little tail off to first base and is safe, its an amazing feeling! Or when he’ll stick his glove out and turn his head away as a fly comes down from the sky directly toward him…and lands right in his glove. Luck isn’t something that should be relied upon. But when it happens, it’s a pretty cool feeling.
  5. Successful = Having Copycats
    One kid will hit a home run and a bunch of his teammates will want to use his bat the rest of the game. To 4 and 5-year olds, the bat is the “secret sauce.” When someone is successful in life, other people want to know how he achieved such success and how they can get there, too!
  6. Just Do IT!
    After all the practices and preparation, the big moment will arrive. At game days a kid will have his first at bat in an official game. He’s put in the work. He knows what to do. The ball is right in front of him, resting on the tee. He just has to swing. In life, you can analyze, study, practice, prepare, think and debate. But when it comes down to it, if you want to accomplish anything, you’ve got to take your shot. Just swing and see what happens.
  7. Scorekeeping?
    In tee-ball no one keeps score at the games. The kids don’t mind. They just want to have fun. There are so many competitive aspects in life. Everything from merging into traffic to answering the question, “What do you do for a living?” can feel like a competition.
  8. Rainy Days
    Sometimes the sky will open up and a pouring rain will ruin all your plans. That’s usually how it goes for spring ball. But it doesn’t have to ruin your day. “Sometimes you win. Sometimes you lose. Sometimes, it rains.” 

    So there’s the life lessons of little league!!! If you’re child is returning back to little league, or you’re new to the baseball community with your child, welcome! Have fun! Let the kids play, and plaaaaay baaaaalll!

October Bubbles

October is finally here!!!!!!! But although the month is filled with pumpkin patch visits, harvest festivals, and Halloween fun, the summer heat still lingers on. I remember a couple years ago, it was still 80 degrees in November!! Now, obviously I’m speaking as being a full on California native. Raised in the Bay Area, and now raising my young boys in sunny Sacramento.

Sacramento heat is absolutely no joke. 8 months out of the year its between 85 degrees to 100. While some cities like Seattle, Washington, have rain just about 8 months long, and spring weather the rest of the time………Sacramento, as told by my neighbors and new friends describe the weather to be hot, and within a flip of a switch, its winter. Being raised and blessed for the past 30 years of my life with the San Francisco breeze, I honestly cannot wait for mother nature to flip that switch!

October is here, but Mother Nature won’t allow us Sactown folks to embrace the autumn season just yet. So until the weather kicks in, the boys and I will continue to enjoy summer like activities outside like, bubbles!

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Having gone through raising two young boys, you end up learning a few tricks up your sleeves. Millennials call it “Parenting Hacks.” We all see this cool Nifty and BuzzFeed videos on our Facebook Timelines on how to fix things, and make adulting easier. Here’s one cool bubble fun Parenting Hack I’ve used to keep the cool bubble soapy liquid inside the tube!

Note: Assuming parents, teachers, and guardians alike are reading this blog, you know exactly why this hack can be useful.

If not I’ll explain.

We’ve all seen the bubble tubes. Usually sold during the Spring/Summer season for children to enjoy, and help parents keep children unplugged, and pretty much used as a quick and easy go-to activity. Sold for $0.99 a pop, these fun little bubble tubes/wands, are easy to enjoy, to pack anywhere from a diaper bag, backpack, to a purse. I usually keep them in my trunk handy. These bubble wands simply open with a quick twist, and swing away using the wand, creating fun bubbles. 90% of the time, your child does not have the eye and hand coordination to keep the open bubble tube upwards, as he/she wands away.

THE RESULT: The bubble solution spills EVERYWHERE, at your feet, sticky, ekky, and the first bubbles blown fly away. #FAIL

SOLUTION: Zip ties.

I’m aware this will no longer give you the flexibility to take your bubble wand anywhere, but if fixed to the house/backyard or grandma and grandpas you’ll definitely want to thank you.

For Day cares, after-school, schools, or care-takers/teacher alike, we can all find a away to fit this in within the child’s daytime home/facility.

Here’s what you’ll need….

Supplies:

-Scissors

-Large Zip Ties

-Bubble Tube (Can be purchased at Target/ WalMart/ Dollar Tree) 

Directions:

  1.  Take a few zip ties, (I used 2, per bubble tube) and zip tie the tube to a fence/patio railing gate.
  2. Attached zip tie to the tub part of the bubbles (The plastic tube, which holds the liquid solution.)
    This holds the tube upright at ALL times for the solution to never spill!!!!! (YAY!!!)
  3. Secure the zip-tie to the tube, and the railing/gate/fence.
  4. Keep bubble want accessible for child to easily use, and twist off.

And viola!!!!! Your bubble wand is now ready for use!!!

If for a school, or daycare center, this makes it really really fun, and easier for the adults/teachers alike to have all children participate in bubbles. You can also keep the bubbles, left on the railing/gate/fence, and refill at any time! This also is great for families with multiple children, wanting to play with bubbles!

COOL ADDITION: Create a rainbow bubble area! Target usually sells this bubble tubes in different colors. Collect the all, and place them next to each-other creating a rainbow bubble area!!

What’s your favorite parenting hack? I’m looking for simple, easy, and ready-to-go hacks that will make my life as a parent a “little-bit” easier. Share! Comment below!

 

Cherrio Corn On The Cob

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted a casual craft. I’ve been focusing on my new lifestyle here in Sacramento, that it’s been difficult to slow down, and enjoy a simple craft with my kids. With fall inches near us, I thought it was appropriate to share a harvest craft! In celebration of fall/autumn, and settled down in one of the top cities in California that harvests majority of the states agriculture, this would be a perfect craft to share!

I live fairly close to a few farms. One exit away, I’m already downtown. The other, I hit farms, and just a few yards away, is the Sacramento River. I actually drive by two farms every day, on my way to work. At first it was something to get used to, as in the Bay Area, there was only 1 or 2 farms I’d actually see. But these farms are gorgeous!!!!!! Acres and acres of amazing fruit and veggies. Early Spring, when I first moved to Sacramento, there were miles out to the sunset sunflowers. Beautifully, amazing tall sunflowers. A photographers dream. Living here in Sacramento has also inspired me to grow some fruits and vegetables. I’ll have to share with you how my garden boxes are doing. (So stay tuned for that!)

Like every craft I do, this was so affordable, quick and easy. It fits any age child, and if you have an older child (3rd/4th grade) I’d highly suggest talking about agriculture, and food.

 

Here are few examples to talk about with your kids:

  • Ask your child about almonds?
  • Where are they grown?
  • Where did almond trees come from?
  • When did almond trees arrive in the US?
  • What kind of weather do almond trees like?
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Have fun talking with your child during the craft…Here are some more questions you can ask your child over crafting!!! This encourages talking, learning, aside from doing the craft in front of you. Depending on the craft, keep topics concentrated of the same craft at hand! Since this craft if about corn, and fall harvesting, topics about farmers and agriculture should be covered!
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So as you enjoy this craft, be sure to talk to your kids. This is something that I’ll be incorporating into my craft tutorials. As my kids grow, and get older, so will my tutorial craft posts. I’ve come to terms with my children growing, and it’ll hit a point of no more kids craft posts (BUT that won’t hit for a couple more years, since I still have a kindergartener. ) Sniff. Sniff….. Imagining them getting older, not doing these crafts with me does sadden me, but I do look forward to whats to come!
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In the mean time, I introduce to you my version of the Pinterest Inspired: Cherrio Corn On The Cob!!!

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What You’ll Need:

  • Green & Yellow Construction PaperDon’t have construction paper handy?
    No worries!!! This craft can be done using crayons/markers/colored pencils/ or paint!!!! Read scroll down below for separate instructions!
  • Scissors
  • Glue
  • Pencil
  • Cherrio Cereal
  • Hole Puncher
  • Fall Colored Yarn/Twine

Directions:

  1.  First, take your yellow construction paper and cut into quarters.
  2. Stack them together, then with a pencil freehand a corn ear shape. It kind’ve looks like a giant’s thumbprint.
    (Don’t worry about the bottom of the corn ear cut out, since it’ll be covered.)
  3. Cut and set aside.
  4. Taking the green construction paper, cut into 6 equal pieces.
  5. Stack the green squares together.
  6. Draw out two leaves, the shape of a “v.”
  7. Cut and set aside.
  8. Take green “husks,” and glue on top of the yellow corn.
    If you have young ones, this is where they can join. Older children, and definietly do the above steps.
  9. Take your Cherrios, and have your child glue Cherrio’s to the corn.
  10. Apply the Cherrios, set to glue, and wait to dry.From here they Corn on the Cob is complete.

    No Construction Paper?????????
    Sometimes we don’t always have the art supplies needed to create with out children. But, using white paperworks just fine, after applying paint/crayon or markers! All you need to white paper, and the colors yellow and green!
    To  transform it into a harvest garland, continue on to steps 11-13.
  11. Take your hold puncher, and punch a hole on the top of your ear of corn.
  12. String through your yarn/twine, through each corn.
  13. Cut, snip, and adjust to your desired length.Your corn on the cob craft is complete! Display your garland around your home, as it adds it that fun harvest DIY feel!

Once you have completed the garland, hang them around your classroom, or around the house. I usually place my decorative garlands on my china hutch. I also had a few extra corn on cobs, which I plan to tape around my kitchen!

If you’re interested in my Autumn decor, you can read more about HERE.

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And voila! A corn on a cob craft!!! This is a perfect craft the kids can enjoy after school, or in the classroom!! Enjoy this fall autumn craft, munching on Cherrios, and discussing farmlands, and your favorite vegetables!! Teachers, this is also a great introduction to fall harvesting topics, and Thanksgiving.

Stay tuned for more fall crafts!! I have tons to share, but so little time. So I’ll try my best to share as much can before October!! Once October hits, get ready for some Halloween crafts!!!

You can check some of my previous Halloween Craft HERE!

Sports Mom

I’ve been in the world of little league for the past 4 years. Last year, I was able to handle both boys in little league (with conflicting game & practice schedules) while pursuing my weekend races. With keeping my mind cool, tag-teaming with daddy, meal planning and extra help with the grandparents, last years baseball season went by smoothly. Mom’s out there, if you’re ever feeling stretched thin, ask for help with family. That’s what they’re there for! Really. Don’t be afraid to ask to help. (I realize this, as I’m now 100miles away from my parents.)

Now come this season. We’re in a new city, new league, new neighbors, and far away from any family. Decisions needed to be made, to make schedules easy to handle between myself, and well…Only myself as daddy is juggling work. This season, I only registered my oldest son Jaeden (8yrs old) to little league, as my 5 year old has no interest in tee ball what so ever. (He said he wants to do golf?!) Feeling really ballsy, and just a few days before our move to Sacramento, I volunteered and stepped up to be Team Parent as a way for me to get to know our new community and for me to meet more parents out there.

 

7 weeks into the season, and I’m not sure if it was the smartest decision. Knowing, that I have a bad case of social anxiety.

 

Presently, I’ve met plenty of parents on the team. Some, which I can see being friends even after season. Another few, live in my neighborhood, or their kids go to my son’s school too. In the end, it all works out! (Better than I expected, as I’ve worried nights before -for no reason.) I would’ve met these other parents eventually, even without the job of team parent. Putting the team parent job aside, which I’ll blog about another time, I’d like to focus on something more glamorous. What to wear, what to bring, and other baseball game essentials for the sports mom.

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Everything above are all things I actually own and take with me on daily basis. Everywhere.

(Of course if it isn’t above 70 degrees. Sacramento skips Spring, and loves to jump into Summer in mid-April)

If you’ve been following my blog for awhile, I typically post these essentials* more for special occasions, or for gift ideas, but this time I thought it would be fun to have a post specially for sports moms out there. Which, I’ve accepted will be my forever seasonal trend all throughout the year, and for each of my boys. Sports will never end in this family! (And that isn’t a bad thing!)

Nowadays, my style is very simple. Long or mid-calf length black leggings, Nike Frees, green army cargo jacket, a hat, and a warm cozy scarf. That is what I’ll wear to my son’s evening games. And by evening in my household, that’s a few hours after school, homework is complete, and that transitional period of rush hour and dinner time. That’s when it’s baseball season. Weekday games always tend to be my favorite. For some parents, not so much, because they work, and rush just to make it in time for the game. Which I totally get.

Evening games, usually consist of me bringing:

  1. Camping Chair
  2. Backpack
  3. External Charger
  4. iPhone/iPhone cord
  5. Camera (Simple point and shoot, and to hit record)
  6. First Aid Kit
  7. Granola Bar
  8. Purewell Wipes
  9. S’well Water Bottle
  10. Gatorade
  11. And a pair of sunnies

 

If you’re a on the go type of mom, which I’m sure we all are, keep the camping chairs in the trunk, and a backpack filled with the electronics (external charger, extra cords) along, with granola bars, first aid kit, sun glasses, and a scarf ready to go, hanging in the garage or near the door! This helps a lot! Especially, if you like bouncing from different purses. Have a designated baseball/sports mom bag-purse!

 

Happy Friday everyone! And too all you little league moms, and team moms, the season is almost over!! Start soft planning the end of season party/picnic and brace yourself for summer vacation!

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Being Grateful

With Thanksgiving here, I’d like to dedicate this post to my three boys. These boys are my what keep me waking up every morning with a smile, to tackle each day willing to grow, and improve.

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Derrick

Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of time on self-improvement basically so I can be more like you. You’re really good at living life. I’ve watched you grow since we were 15 years old, and every obstacle, milestone, and curveball life has struck towards you, you’ve managed to overcome it. You’re really good at living life that just isn’t vacationing, and spending money on the coolest electronics. You’re good at living the daily grind. The fixed routine, a custom lifestyle – and for that I’m grateful.

Jaeden

My 8 year old, and first born. A spitting image of his dad. I see so much of me in you, but more of daddy.  I encourage you to work hard, make mistakes, and then achieve success. I am the lucky one who watched you persevere to crawl, walk, read, and make friends. You are so naturally athletic. You come for challenge, and can make a game out of anything. You make me grateful for life, and look at it as fun playground.

Tristan

My little boyfriend. He just turned 5. I love him more than life. Someday Tristan, you will become a very lucky girls Prince Charming. As much as I want that girl to be perfect for you, I want you to be prepared for her. Just know that I Iove you now, forever and always. And know that someday I will love her too.

Happy Thanksgiving to you my fellow readers. I am thankful for you. I create content in a reflection of parts of my life and interests, can inspire. From the stay at home mom, a woman looking to get healthy and happy, or maybe a mother looking for her creative outlet. I made this blog in no way to proclaim a Pinterest perfect life. That’s not what I have, nor claim to be about.

Tiffany’s Tidings is an outlet for me, to be on the internet, besides platforms like IG, SnapFish, Twitter, and Facebook. It all boils down to being real, and happy. No filters, no special effects, no collaborations to make myself better.

This is me, and my family I am thankful for. My number #1 subscribers.

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B.T.W!

Stay tuned for my Thanksgiving runs recap!! I have my first Half Marathon Saturday!!

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Calmer State Of Mind

While we love spending time with extended family, sometimes (or often) it’s also a big time of stress and conflict. Stresses like these dealing with family and friends can happen more often during the holidays, but also in other instances such as other events and weddings. The Holiday disagreements happen. But if it’s one thing learned over the years, that keeps me cool during this stressful season is having my partner and I being on the same page specifically for the holidays. Stress tends to build up and there are times when family members can lose their cool, so the next time you argue with your partner during the stressful holidays, consider this calm down  themes/points:

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Be On The Same Team

With your husband, spouse, partner, boyfriend, fiance, approach the seasonal holiday party(parties) with a game plan.  Anticipate the issues, issue spots on what’s going to happen, and address them before they become issues. We know our families, so addressing the hot button topics with your partner. Between each other as couple, fill each hother in on day-to-day going’s on whats currently happening within each other’s extended family members.

Sit down for a few minutes and discuss in preparation for the family party. Usually, my boyfriend and I discuss our plan during the commute to the party. Our drives to family parties are usually 30-45minutes, so we’re able to catch up on “who’s not talking to who,” or “don’t bring up that..” 

One thing to remember at the end of the night, is although you’re dealing with friends and extended family members, whatever happens during the party, at the end of the night you’re going home with your significant other. It’s all about supporting each other, and even if you disagree with whatever’s happening within the family, present yourself as a unified friend. Deal with it at home.

Find The Humor 

When at the family party, however the situation presents itself, go there with a smile, and just find the humor it in all. Weather it’s your teenage brother fighting with his girlfriend in the other room, or your mother complaining about why your children don’t want to wear a bow-tie, or your little nephew crying during prayer. Whatever it is, find the humor. Remember, this is a time of gathering, you don’t meet with these people on a daily, nor live with them on a day to day basis, so if you’re on vacation seeing family, don’t push anyones buttons, accept other peoples behaviors, and just take a step back, smile, and find the humor in it all.

Accept It

There’s a reason why you showed up to Thanksgiving. It’s your family. They may be far from being perfect, but you oviously accept them for who they are, and they accept you for who you are. People are not going to change, you will not change for your family, nor don’t assume they want you to be a certain way. Your family isn’t going to change into the way you want them to be.

Level set your expectations. The internet, social media, and TV  portrays the holidays as a perfect family gathering. So your expectations don’t always have to be so ideal. You got to get realistic with what your expectations are with your family especially during these times of events such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years.

One thing my boyfriend has taught me, which has some harsh truth to it is “Set your exceptions low.” Although there is some level of truth to it, it works. When gathering together, you know exactly the personality traits in which your family members have, so accept it, and leave that level of expectation there. That way you know how to handle their behavior and any sudden occurrences. At most times, you find out you’ll end of having a good time.

Leave At It’s Peak

While at the party, when everyone is having a good time, that is honestly the best time you can leave. It’s a common trick to practice during family events. I’ve been practicing for quite awhile, because of the crazy amounts of family holiday parties my family is invited to, somehow we’ve managed to show face to each one in previous years. (One year we did 4 Thanksgiving Parties!!! In one day!!!!!) Yes. It’s exhausting, but if you follow the common tips above it helps me deal with the overload, in dealing with extended family, and family gatherings. Leaving on a high note, keeps that engrained memory of family fun fresh in your head. As you leave the party, and drive off, it’s the last memory you and your family will have. It is a little heart breaking to leave, but trust me, it’s the best way to avoid the low, after all the partying, the food coma, and then grumpy children.

 

How do you deal with holiday stress and what keeps you calm? Do you sit with your significant other and plan ahead? Or do you deal with the crazy in-laws and extended family, knowing something always erupts? Holiday traveling is a lot to deal with, especially with having children. Do you avoid the parties, and just take a vacation away from it all? Let me know you’re thoughts, and how you manage to deal with the holiday season!

 

Have a Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!!

 

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