Officespace In My Purse

 

Happy Sunday fellow readers! It’s been awhile since I’ve been on blogging, but it’s always been on my mind! So much has been going on, with the school year, the kids, and also working part time at two jobs! YES TWO!! This mama is back in the game! As some of you know, I’m an Instructional Assistant to a Kindergarten class here in Sacramento! I’m in the same Unified School District with my own children, which is great because, we their off, I’m off! Our vacations are totally in-sync!!

As for my newest job, I work for one of the general hospitals here in Sacramento as an Administrative Assistant!! If you’ve never had a position within the healthcare world, boy oh boy, their interview process wasn’t that rigorous as I thought it would be, but it was the job steps in getting cleared through Human Resources, and the hospital. Very very step heavy, and something I’ve gone through. Anyhow, you’re girl is back into the work world doing two things that make me happy, provide for my family, as well, as keep me in check in life, routine and schedule.

Speaking of schedules, now having 2 jobs now has be driving to and from places like a mad woman. Gym in the early AM, dropping off the kids to school, going to job 1, fitting in groceries, getting my second work-out in, prepping dinner, bringing the children to karate, then going to my second job…Everything has me working from my car. And with that, I need a journal, and a few basic office supplies always on hand.
Here’s a post on basic stationary I keep handy as this mother works 2 jobs, and balances out life as a wife, mother, and employee. Daiso EDITION!!

“The Japanese dollar store,” is known for their cute, “kawaii” designs that make everything in their retailer different from the normal dollar general retailer. From stationary, health & beauty, Japanese products, to kitchen & dining. Enter at your own risk, as Daiso may surprise you!! I’ve been able to avoid Target for the longest time because I’ve shifted my mind-set to Daiso everything. #DaisoHack #AvoidingTarget

From the cutest stationary sets, of normal standard sized envelopes, to the cutest, tiny-itty,-bitty panda printed envelopes you can find!!! So kawaii ya’ll!!!!

High quality pencils, pens, calligraphy pens, markers, colored pencils, to journals, planners, wallets, and office supplies. Majority of things costing $1.50!!! I also scored this cute pencil zipper case ($1.50!) It fits perfectly in my purse which holds my laptop, along with files for work, and other planners I normally hold.

I’m seriously a walking-wanna-be-kindergarten teacher, with office flare. Ok, ok..That was my attempt to be a little funny. But girl, look at that white, and black graph-print pencil case! Does it scream Etsy/UrbanOutfitters inspired?! You would have never known it was from Daiso, it I didn’t mention it! I’m planning to purchase a whole bunch, just cause it’s $1.50!!! HELLO, I see make-up bag, bags to hold my ear-buds, and other cords, and also tampons! YUP. A little TMI, but shoot! For reals ladies!!!

Being a busy working mom on the go, phone-calls, appointments, meetings, all come up to the surface when in my car. So having my little travel friendly office supplies on me in my purse, comes definietly handy, as I can simply, pull over, or while I’m wait

5 Ways To Feel Younger

Let’s face it, growing up is hard. Finding the perfect career, finding the love of your life, growing a family, raising children, buying a house, saving for vacations, the list goes on. Life really wears us down. I mean, I work part time, but also handle many stay-at-home mom duties, the rest of the day. My children’s lives take over my own personal goals, which to this day, I still have trouble balancing. As we’re getting older, and so as our offspring, life passes by. Here are a few ways to feel and look much younger, fresher and more lively so life doesn’t break us down early on in life.

I love my age. Old enough to know better, young enough to not care. Experienced enough to do it right.

To through it out there, I’m 31. I hit my thirties just last year, and have been a parent for 10 years. I laugh when young twenty somethings tell me their tired. Because, when I was 24, already had a 3 year old, and newborn. I don’t want anyone reading this feeling like they are holding a special card saying their life is unique and that’s the reason why you feel so so tired. Well, truth is, we all have 24 hours in a day, and it’s up to you to run the day, or the day runs you.

  1. Cook More.
    Cooking your own food, in your own kitchen, not only gives you life skills, but also helps budget money, and saves time from going out and buying unhealthy food at you’re not preparing.
  2. Watch What You Eat
    Food is fuel. Eat right feel amazing!

  3. Sleep Enough
    Beyonce get’s 24 hours in a day too, and she has newborn twins and a 5 year old. Somewhere in her day she still manages to be a great wife, and mother, daughter, sister, and entertainer. Trust me, she’s tired too. We all are. Whatever your work schedule or lifestyle is, 7-9hours is definietly enough to get those ZzZz’s.
  4. Exercising Regularly
    In two weeks, you’ll feel it.
    In four weeks, you’ll see it.
    In eight weeks, you’ll hear it.

    Fall in love with taking care of your body. Period.

  5. Maintain A Positive Attitude
    You are what you think you are when it comes to aging. Seniors who think of age as a means to wisdom and overall satisfaction are more than 40% likely to recover from a disability than those who see aging as equal with helplessness or uselessness.

Feeling younger, and loving your age isn’t rocket science. It’s all common traits we all know, but its all about the attitude and how much you really want to feel great and feel alive. Money isn’t a factor. And don’t let that run you. If you can’t afford to take that SoulCycle class, or new trendy gym downtown, take matters into your own hands and work-out at home. Waking up, get up, and tackle these 5 things. Feel good and feel great!

Parenting Feels

I’m one of those young moms. I had my first son when I was 21, and my second son at 24. If you haven’t done the math yet, I’m now 30 years old. Today, my 6 year old completed Kindergarten, and my oldest son is moving on to the fifth grade. The end of school year has finally arrived, and I’m now stuck with a  going-to-be 1st grader and 5th grader for 2.5 months.

Earlier today, my eldest son and I were walking to get drinks at a local boba cafe. While waiting for our drinks, my son sees two of his martial art buddies come in, and he gives me the eye signal to leave him. I receive the message and take my drink and sit outside. As I’m sitting outside I watch through the glass to see him mingle with his friends. At this time, I have so many feelings rushing through me, the disappointment of him dismissing me, for his friends, excitement in watching my son grow and mingle with his friends, and proud, that I was able to read his discreet signs of communicating with me.

I clearly remember when I was my sons age (9-10years old), being in the 4th and 5th grade and wanting social time with my friends. It’s that age of having your own social life, being dropped off to birthday parties for a few hours, and also sleepovers. Times, when I wanted to communicate with my mom about wanting her to step-aside from “my” fun always came out the wrong way.

I did such a poor job at communicating to my mother how I wanted to hang with friends. At times I would be clear and direct, but other times, obviously to avoid embarrassment, I’d bark out in an ugly tone to my mother on wanting to hang out with friends.

For that I am sorry to my mom. I was young. Naive. And spoiled.

Now, as an adult, and as a mother of a young child entering the chapter of having friends outside of his parents and younger sibling, it’s time for me to let my son break free just a little bit. Gain that self-confidence, and have him express who he is to others his age.

Gawd, it’s such milestone….I call this Parenting Feels. A rush of mixed emotions seeing your offspring grow into the people who they are coming to be.

Are you experiencing the parenting feels around this age? Doesn’t it feel weird? Exciting? Scary?

Comment below, I’d love to read your Parenting Truths!!

 

Calmer State Of Mind

While we love spending time with extended family, sometimes (or often) it’s also a big time of stress and conflict. Stresses like these dealing with family and friends can happen more often during the holidays, but also in other instances such as other events and weddings. The Holiday disagreements happen. But if it’s one thing learned over the years, that keeps me cool during this stressful season is having my partner and I being on the same page specifically for the holidays. Stress tends to build up and there are times when family members can lose their cool, so the next time you argue with your partner during the stressful holidays, consider this calm down  themes/points:

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Be On The Same Team

With your husband, spouse, partner, boyfriend, fiance, approach the seasonal holiday party(parties) with a game plan.  Anticipate the issues, issue spots on what’s going to happen, and address them before they become issues. We know our families, so addressing the hot button topics with your partner. Between each other as couple, fill each hother in on day-to-day going’s on whats currently happening within each other’s extended family members.

Sit down for a few minutes and discuss in preparation for the family party. Usually, my boyfriend and I discuss our plan during the commute to the party. Our drives to family parties are usually 30-45minutes, so we’re able to catch up on “who’s not talking to who,” or “don’t bring up that..” 

One thing to remember at the end of the night, is although you’re dealing with friends and extended family members, whatever happens during the party, at the end of the night you’re going home with your significant other. It’s all about supporting each other, and even if you disagree with whatever’s happening within the family, present yourself as a unified friend. Deal with it at home.

Find The Humor 

When at the family party, however the situation presents itself, go there with a smile, and just find the humor it in all. Weather it’s your teenage brother fighting with his girlfriend in the other room, or your mother complaining about why your children don’t want to wear a bow-tie, or your little nephew crying during prayer. Whatever it is, find the humor. Remember, this is a time of gathering, you don’t meet with these people on a daily, nor live with them on a day to day basis, so if you’re on vacation seeing family, don’t push anyones buttons, accept other peoples behaviors, and just take a step back, smile, and find the humor in it all.

Accept It

There’s a reason why you showed up to Thanksgiving. It’s your family. They may be far from being perfect, but you oviously accept them for who they are, and they accept you for who you are. People are not going to change, you will not change for your family, nor don’t assume they want you to be a certain way. Your family isn’t going to change into the way you want them to be.

Level set your expectations. The internet, social media, and TV  portrays the holidays as a perfect family gathering. So your expectations don’t always have to be so ideal. You got to get realistic with what your expectations are with your family especially during these times of events such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years.

One thing my boyfriend has taught me, which has some harsh truth to it is “Set your exceptions low.” Although there is some level of truth to it, it works. When gathering together, you know exactly the personality traits in which your family members have, so accept it, and leave that level of expectation there. That way you know how to handle their behavior and any sudden occurrences. At most times, you find out you’ll end of having a good time.

Leave At It’s Peak

While at the party, when everyone is having a good time, that is honestly the best time you can leave. It’s a common trick to practice during family events. I’ve been practicing for quite awhile, because of the crazy amounts of family holiday parties my family is invited to, somehow we’ve managed to show face to each one in previous years. (One year we did 4 Thanksgiving Parties!!! In one day!!!!!) Yes. It’s exhausting, but if you follow the common tips above it helps me deal with the overload, in dealing with extended family, and family gatherings. Leaving on a high note, keeps that engrained memory of family fun fresh in your head. As you leave the party, and drive off, it’s the last memory you and your family will have. It is a little heart breaking to leave, but trust me, it’s the best way to avoid the low, after all the partying, the food coma, and then grumpy children.

 

How do you deal with holiday stress and what keeps you calm? Do you sit with your significant other and plan ahead? Or do you deal with the crazy in-laws and extended family, knowing something always erupts? Holiday traveling is a lot to deal with, especially with having children. Do you avoid the parties, and just take a vacation away from it all? Let me know you’re thoughts, and how you manage to deal with the holiday season!

 

Have a Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!!

 

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Happier Mornings

The holiday season is slowly approaching, but until then it’s the crazy and most busiest season for most families. Before the boys wake up for school, I stand in my kitchen analyzing our family white board. Schedules are so crazy right now, especially with birthdays every weekend, appointment visits, and early dismissals, it’s hard to keep track of all of it. Every morning feels like a Monday morning. Getting the kids ready for school until I drop them off is a precious time for me schedule and get organize. It’s a time for me to process our day/week/month and so forth.

Too boot out the crazy season, crazy mornings are evidently to happen. Rushing my children to get, change, eat breakfast, up brush their teeth, pack homework its an insane tornado every morning. Develop new behaviors and practices for yourself. Here are a few secrets to happier mornings:

 

Challenge Them

Instead of rushing them, challenge them. As your child is slowly packing their backpack, tell your kids that you doubt they can do it. Naturally we as parents feel we have to explain every single thing to our children. But actually, of you say, ‘I bet you can’t get dressed all by yourself,’ your child will most likely respond, ‘Oh yes I can! Watch!’ Once your child completes the task, praise him!! This will encourage an encore performance.

Practice

Self-sufficiency requires some repetition. The good news: About two weeks of dedication is all parents need to get kids with the program. During that time, help your child get through each task until he can do it entirely without you. Then fade out those prompts and you’re done.

Do Some Prep

A bit of advance legwork, like laying out the next day’s outfit or putting out the cereal the night before, can save a lot of hand-holding during the a.m rush. Growing up (in a Filipino household) I’ve witnessed my mom cook dinner in the wee hours of the night. She would be cooking loads of food for the week to feed our family. My mom would also prep my dad’s lunch the same night. It was what we say ‘baon’ (pronounced “bah-own”) in Tagalog.  She’d pack two tupperware for him, one filled with rice, the other with the specialty dish, usually a soup meat based dish with boil veggies. I saw my mom do this ever since I was a little girl, until the day I moved out later in my early twenties.

Now, as a mother, I need the efficiency in her methods. My dad still this day grabs his lunch every morning, as I do the same for my young boys with their breakfast and school lunches.

Set A Fast Pace

One morning I left the kids for a moment as they were eating their breakfast, to do the rest of my make-up (yes, if I have a few minutes to spare I apply some make-up as a refresher) When the kids linger, just this week I caught the boys playing checkers as they were waiting. Try to beat the clock!! Pick a series of related tasks (think: brushing teeth, putting on socks and shoes), set a timer for a few minutes, and ask your kid if he can do them before the buzzer sounds. Every time he wins, he gets a point to be used for a treat.

Raising boys: They love games. Create a game for anything. That brings us back to challenging them.

Calm Yourself

The more stressed you get, the less likely kids will do what you ask. To decompress, walk to the end of the house and back. Remember you can always try again tomorrow. Something I’ve been practicing is openly apologizing for rushed and late days when things were clearly at my fault. In the car as I drop my son off school a few minutes late “I’m sorry we were late today. Tomorrow we will wake up earlier, and get it right tomorrow.”

You can’t go wrong with apologies, and being accountable when you are at fault. We learn from our mistakes, and make better choices next time and get better the following day. Admitting to minor faults, and practicing them to your children will teach them honesty, and liable to their own actions.

Follow the above steps to create happier mornings in your household and I promise you, just developing new behaviors will produce not just happier morning within a home, but happier family.

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Alternately Edited by Jennifer O’Neil Scholastic.com/ParentAndChild

Stay-At-Home Mom Flatline

I became a stay-at-home mom at the age of 24, after my second son was born back in 2010. My boyfriend has been blessed to be able to provide for our family, while I can stay at home with the children. At the beginning stages of stay-at-home living, we were in a small 2 bedroom apartment. I’d drop off my boyfriend to BART (Bay Area Rapid Transit), and my older son to daycare. I’d stay home and cater to all household needs, as well as my newborn baby boy. Eat, sleep, pump, prep meals on repeat. That was my routine.

3 months passed, and we moved into a 5 bedroom home that was provided by my parents paying a small portion of rent helping them out with their mortgage. It was definitely a steal here in the Bay Area -especially being extremely close to the Dumbarton Bridge, which connects the East Bay to the Peninsula including cities such as Redwood City, Palo Alto, and Half Moon Bay just to name a few…

After the move, my older son entered Kindergarten, and my boyfriend was hired at a social media marketing company that helped advertisers manage their pages on Facebook. The company was at their early start-up phase, and was conveniently located across the bridge in Palo Alto. I stayed home, continued to care for my boys and in a larger home. Cleaning was exceedingly difficult, more room = more mess.

 

My sons grew older, birthdays and career milestones were celebrated, while I just stayed a flat momentum of personal growth. Watching my children grow, my boyfriends career grow, and square-footage of our home grow.

 

We’ve then moved out of my parents property, my son entered 1st grade at a new school, new job opportunities for daddy. We are now at a new routine change. My youngest is now in Pre-K, the other in entering 3rd and the boyfriend works remotely from home. The time off opportunity starts now. I’ve failed in increase the past four years. Any mother can understand that we are all opportunist. At times we have absolute no time for even sitting. A stay-at-home mom’s life is all about the house and your children. At times I literally stand while I eat, and I purposely wear gym wear majority of the time, because I feel like I’m actually working out while cleaning, running errands, and always always always doing things for others around the house, and for the house.

As I mentioned in my Journey To 30, 28 wasn’t so great. It was the actual time it really hit me. I’m approaching my 30s, and I want something to show for. …For myself. No one else. I want to challenge myself, try something new, something different, an outlet for me to express myself, personally and creatively. A possible way to provide for my family,  which does not eat away time from my family, that is Number ONE.  Being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t always get any credibility unless someone truly knows what its like. I’m not asking for a high-five, or gold sticker. I just want time for myself for personal growth.

Socially, financially, and emotionally, it’s hard to find my village of moms, and the support. So I always went to the internet. Mommy Blogs, Facebook groups, online forums, MeetUps and YouTube. I’ve found my community there. It was “live,” it’s real, it’s relatable. I gravitate towards mothers/women who share the same lifestyle as me, and have similar interests. There are so many different types of people out there, personalities, and you won’t always mesh well with all of them. And thats ok. There will be times searching for that outlet will remain static…But I pushed myself to keep searching, and improving myself in the mean time.

Bottom line, I’m done being at a flatline. I refuse to continue to fail to increase; to stop remaining static as a stay-at-home mom. Here goes to my new creative challenge and on going personal project.

Being myself and improving myself.

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Goals For The Week

Every Sunday evening, I sit at the dining table with my notebooks, journals, and laptops all open. Yes, laptops – because, photoshop currently only runs on one of my machines. I look over the weeks upcoming  family schedule for the week, and create my lists. The lists include meal planning, kids little league practice & game schedules, along with fitness routine work-outs. I also create my weekly grocery list, and goal list. This probably takes me a couple hours in the day to complete, because the kids schedules consistently change with game changes, and carpool arrangements. I’m typically in and out of doing it, between folding laundry, and just relaxing with the kids.

Aside from our family week schedule, I have my own personal weekly goals documented down with my week schedule. The past two months, my goals have normally stayed the same, incorporating my new health and fitness lifestyle. Here’s a list what my weekly goals typically look like:

Weekly Goals

How did you do on last week’s goals? What are your goals for this week?

I’d love to have you share your progress on last week’s goals and your goals for this coming week in the comments. If you’ve blogged about it, leave your direct link below. Let’s cheer each other on to live purposeful and productive lives!

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