Maid Of Honor Responsibilities

With only a few more days until my god-sisters wedding, I must go through my MOH list of to-do’s. Luckily, my god-sister the bride-to-be, has planned her wedding so far in advance many of the things I thought a maid of honor was suppose to do, has been already taken cared of.

In the past being a maid of honor, I’ve assisted the bride to every wedding related shopping, from the dress, bridesmaid dresses, accessories, to even a few alteration appointments and also her make-up trail appointment and engagement photoshoot! I’ve even stayed up the night before the wedding with the wedding planner, doing floral arrangements till the wee-hours of the wedding day! Seriously! Shouldn’t I be relaxing with the rest of the bridesmaids at the hotel?! That’s some MOH dedication right there.

From the Maid of Honor down to the Ring Bearer, there are laundry lists of responsibilities associated with each role. If you’re new to the whole wedding Maid of Honor or bridesmaid thing, here a list that you can follow. Various duties for all the lovely ladies that were hand selected by your special bride-to-be friend/sister/cousin/co-worker.

Maid of Honor

The maid of honor has one of the most important (and demanding) jobs out of the bridal party. Not only does she need to be responsible, she must be very close to the bride as well and be able to keep her cool, calm, and collected throughout the entire process. Duties include the following:

  • Assists the bride with all wedding related shopping.
  • Helps organize hair and makeup for the bridesmaids
  • Plans and hosts the bridal shower and bachelorette party
  • Witnesses and sign the Marriage Certificate
  • Attends the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
  • Carries an emergency kit for the bride on the day of the wedding (although if you have a planner or day-of coordinator, they usually hold onto this)
  • Holds the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony
  • Stays by the bride’s side at all times and oversee the bridesmaids
  • Holds onto the groom’s ring during the ceremony
  • Helps make favors and address invitations
  • Gives a speech and toast during the wedding reception
  • Acts as air traffic control for the bride, wedding planner, and family
  • Responsible for paying for her own travel, attire, and accessories
  • Gives the bride both a shower gift and wedding gift
  • Helps out however and whenever she can
  • Encourages guests to get on the dance floor during the reception


Bridesmaids should be a dependable group of ladies consisting of the bride’s closest friends and/or family (sisters, cousins, etc.). Traditionally, if the groom has any sisters, they are included in the wedding as bridesmaids. Duties include the following:

  • Assists Maid of Honor however they can
  • Helps Maid of Honor plan and pay for the bridal shower and bachelorette party
  • Greets guests at the reception and encourage mingling
  • Purchases their own attire, transportation, and accessories
  • Attends the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
  • Assists the Maid of Honor in helping everyone get on the dance floor.
The following duties can be found on Lauren Conrad’s Blog: Wedding Bells: The Duties


Time For Tea

If you’ve been following me on Twitter or Instagram, you would probably know that I am one of the MOH for my friends wedding this upcoming weekend. It is very much a huge compliment to be named one of the right-hand women. My friend evidently had chosen me because she thought of me as being organized, loyal, and reliable enough for her to trust me as her voice of reason. My job: for her to come to me in happy moments and sad.  I know the bride pretty much inside and out. I clearly know when to hold back, and when to chime in.

This past weekend we celebrated the bachelorette party. The brides sister and  also the other MOH, decided to reserve a room at Crown & Crumpet Tea Shop & Cafe in San Francisco. Right in the heart of Japantown along Post St. this tea cafe provides stylish rooms, traditional English tea salon experience, with stylish and sparkling decor.

Time For Tea

Above is the lower main tea area of the cafe. Walk in welcome, reservations can also be made. When we first walked in the afternoon, this place was packed! From young girls with their mothers, to teens, to older adults. To anyone who enjoys little the details, cute ambiance, and just the feeling of feeling like a princess this place is for you!

The bachelorette party was held in a private room, just up the steps from the main level. The room was decorated with vintage china plates nicely arranged on the main wall, titled “Great wall of china.” Sitting 10 ladies, ou afternoon tea began with  our dedicated Trolley Dolly host to look after our party. Served “family style” on silver three tiers with a selection of tea sandwiches and warm savories. Warm fruit scones can be served with strawberry jam, lemon curd, and clotted cream. Delish!!


I created some festive partea favors for the ladies attending. I was inspired by Roses and Teacups‘ tea bag. Creating a tea bag party favor for guests to go home with a little something. Although you can buy tea bag favors from different places, they are easy to make. Here’s how:

Things You’ll Need:

  • Colored Organza Bags
  • Fake Spring Flowers
  • Tea Packets
  • Tea Candle
  • Chocolates
  • Tags
  • Washi Tape
  • Tape
  • Scissors
  • Pen/Calligraphy Pen

Tea Favors


  1. Purchase your organza bags, tea bags, tea lights, and any other fillers you’d like to fill and style your favor bag with.
  2. Take your washi tape and wrap around each tea light candle.
  3. Using your pen/calligraphy pen, write something such as “Time for tea, with the bride to be!” and date.
  4. Open and fill your organza bags (1Tea Packet, 1Tea Light, 2 chocolates) or anything else you plan on adding.
  5. Cut fake flowers and tape to the top of the tag.
  6. Tie tag around the bags. Style/position fake flowers.

The favors were an extra personal touch to add to our afternoon Bachelorette tea party. Although Crown & Crumpet also provided a nice goodie bag, including my custom organza favor bag was a pleasant addition, as gift from yours truly the Maid Of Honor….


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