I’m one of those young moms. I had my first son when I was 21, and my second son at 24. If you haven’t done the math yet, I’m now 30 years old. Today, my 6 year old completed Kindergarten, and my oldest son is moving on to the fifth grade. The end of school year has finally arrived, and I’m now stuck with a going-to-be 1st grader and 5th grader for 2.5 months.
Earlier today, my eldest son and I were walking to get drinks at a local boba cafe. While waiting for our drinks, my son sees two of his martial art buddies come in, and he gives me the eye signal to leave him. I receive the message and take my drink and sit outside. As I’m sitting outside I watch through the glass to see him mingle with his friends. At this time, I have so many feelings rushing through me, the disappointment of him dismissing me, for his friends, excitement in watching my son grow and mingle with his friends, and proud, that I was able to read his discreet signs of communicating with me.
I clearly remember when I was my sons age (9-10years old), being in the 4th and 5th grade and wanting social time with my friends. It’s that age of having your own social life, being dropped off to birthday parties for a few hours, and also sleepovers. Times, when I wanted to communicate with my mom about wanting her to step-aside from “my” fun always came out the wrong way.
I did such a poor job at communicating to my mother how I wanted to hang with friends. At times I would be clear and direct, but other times, obviously to avoid embarrassment, I’d bark out in an ugly tone to my mother on wanting to hang out with friends.
For that I am sorry to my mom. I was young. Naive. And spoiled.
Now, as an adult, and as a mother of a young child entering the chapter of having friends outside of his parents and younger sibling, it’s time for me to let my son break free just a little bit. Gain that self-confidence, and have him express who he is to others his age.
Gawd, it’s such milestone….I call this Parenting Feels. A rush of mixed emotions seeing your offspring grow into the people who they are coming to be.
Are you experiencing the parenting feels around this age? Doesn’t it feel weird? Exciting? Scary?
Comment below, I’d love to read your Parenting Truths!!