It’s official! My family and I have moved to Sacramento! It’s been a long journey for us! But we did it! It’s been about 2 months settled in, and my family and I have transitioned very smoothly to the area. Leaving the Bay Area wasn’t as hard as I thought it would’ve been. But let’s start with why we moved.
Yellow Sacramento Bridge is the Tower Bridge that sits over the Sacramento River.
Born and raised in the Bay Area, I’ve always thought this was going to be my forever home. Of course I knew there were tons of great places out there in the world to explore and discover, but knowing that your childhood friends and family are only 10-20 minutes away is quite comforting. But not until you grow your own family.
See from, 2007-2012 my high school sweetheart and I struggled to make a comfortable home. We jumped from a small loft nestled in the intersection of Hayward’s Mission Blvd. & A St. (subregion of the San Francisco Bay Area), where oriental auto mobile mechanic shops, used car dealerships, and a WIC Family Grocery store rest. From the ghetto loft (raising a 2yr old son), we then moved to Fremont, CA just 15 minutes south of Hayward and rested in a 1 bedroom corner apartment, where Middle Eastern liquor stores were walking distance and countless Pizza N Curry deliveries were always made.
Once we were expecting our second son Tristan, we needed more space and moved back up North to Castro Valley, CA (25 minutes North Fremont,) a small village town, with mainly older retired veterans, and young working professional families. That was a transitional apartment while we were expecting our second son. At age 23, we managed to make these small apartments our home, and my recently graduated boyfriend started his career in Software Development. I at the time, was working full time as a Administrative Assistant in San Ramon for an ATM company. One of my most favorite jobs ever.
After living in in Castro Valley for about 6 months, with our new 3 month old baby son, and 3 year old, my parents offered a deal to live in a 5 bedroom home, that was supposed to be an elderly care home project, that didn’t fall through. We were only paying $1,000 a month! Note, 5 bedrooms, in Union City, CA. That was a deal. 3 years in a comfortable home (which didn’t feel like home, bc we were technically paying my parents), we moved out and found a 3 bedroom cute bungalow in Fremont, and then made it our own, with cozy personality, cul-de-sac memories, and neighborhood kids friendships with my grown boys now (5 & 8yrs old.)
Now, fast forward to the present. We’re now settled in Sacramento, just North of Downtown, and across the Sacramento River. What brought us further up to Northern California and settling in Sacramento??? The overcrowded Bay Area. 2015 was all about reflection and patience for myself and my boyfriend who had ruptured his left achilles tendon during a basketball game. Mid-summer, he partially torn it again. Through the rough patches of year, and many hours of talking about “when I’m 100%,” or “When I’m able too….” so many conversations were about the future. The future that may not be nestled in the Bay Area, where we will take ourselves and our children, and start fresh.
In fall 2015, we already started searching. Searching for family friendly neighborhoods. Seattle, Washington, Portland, Oregon, San Diego. We wanted an area with culture, diversity, and where the cost of living was a lot lower than the Bay.
“The Bay Area is where you want to work, and only want to work.”
“The Bay Area is pushing out the middle class.”
“Work life balance is non-existent in the Bay Area. There’s a reason why Tech companies have all these aminities on site such as oil change, dry-cleaning, gym, free food… They don’t want you to leave.”
A typical 3 bedroom home in Fremont could cost you about $2,700 to $3,000 a month! $2,900 for luxury condos near BART.
For a stay-at-home mother, with a partner who works remotely from home, even us too, are sick and tired of the over-used and abused culture in the Bay Area. We haven’t taken our children to San Francisco since 2012. (Due to the extreme traffic conditions.) It just isn’t worth it in our eyes. After the careful consideration, and much research, we settled for Sacramento. See, I don’t want to talk down the Bay Area. It’s an amazing part of Northern California. But it doesn’t fit in to our family needs. We can live without it, the 1hour and 50minute drive to visit family and friends is excusable, and still not to too far.
During our transition of relocating my family to Sacramento, it’s brought to my attention relationship standings with family and friends. Also, how I plan to tackle and approach our new life here. It all transitions well into turning 30 this year. My goals are crystal clear, and I love the new atmosphere in our neighborhood and community. Stay tuned for more Sacramento living with my Journey to 30!